Today.

I slept in. Got woken up from what I know was an awesome hawt dream to a booming voice asking why I was still asleep dammit! Jumped out of bed to find kiddo (should have been leaving for school) to stumble out and find him in his pj’s watching cartoons. My bad. Breakfast and uniform sorted in 15 mins flat. Shoved him out the door happy and proceeded to hunt down coffee.

Then. Walked down to the bank. It rained. I had no umbrella. I got wet. And no not the ‘fun’ wet.

Joy.

Got home. Made coffee and decided cold pizza was brunch. Dropped pizza chunk in coffee.

Fuuuuuuck.

The day got relatively better after that but it was way beyond lunchtime before I started drawing for the day.

I swear I am soooo not a morning person.

I see it all the time and it irks me to no end.

Submissives/slaves who are being told they’re fake or “not submissive enough” when they speak their mind and it doesn’t fit with some preconceived idea of what a ‘good/real/true submissive should say and do. Let alone lowly slaves who should be automatic doormats because they are … slaves.

Even worse is when I see “from a dominant perspective’ in relations to a discussion where ‘a dominant perspective’ is semantics only.

In my day job, I am in a very male-oriented industry and I am in control of my own workspace. I am published, I teach all, I manage projects and people. I’ve run a business, I’ve been a supervisor and trained staff. That does not make me a dominant.

I speak my mind. I make my opinions known. Outside my own choices to engage in situations with an extremely small number of people I allow to beat me and take a submissive role I submit to NOBODY. I speak my mind on matters that concern me. I’m a solo parent and responsible for a child. I will say “no” when I feel the need.

NONE of those things make me a dominant.

The qualities that make a good submissive/slave are the same qualities that make a good dominant/owner/master/whatever, are the same qualities that make a good PERSON. A whole person.

What differentiates us is the chosen dynamic with the person/s we CHOOSE to engage with on a D/s or M/s or O/p level. And it’s no one else’s business whatsoever. What is decided between those people is their own shit.

Don’t mistake my assertiveness for dominance or believe that only dominants are assertive. That’s absolute poppycock.

Don’t mistake self-control for dominance. It’s called personal responsibility and maturity.

Telling someone they are “not submissive enough” is a sure sign of your obvious butthurt and a pathetic judgment.

Think before you engage your foot in your mouth.

If you still don’t get it?

Watch this …

Isn’t it nice when I open my emails and lo and behold I get a present

‘beams’