It’s been a crazy week and I’ve been working on assignments all weekend and sleeping. Last time we dealt with a complete and utter tardhead who had no concept of general social skills or manners. With any social BDSM event there’s a basic standard of behaviour expected by most people and I say most because there is always some idiot that makes a dick of themselves. Stupid really because if you do act like a tard you pretty much seal the deal on not ever being welcome back again.

Basic manners are not much to expect. I don’t go around calling every Tom, Dick and Hariet ‘Sir’ or ‘Mistress’ thats just dumb and any fuckwit that expects me to is just that … a fuckwit. The only people that get that from me are special people not some random fucker in leather pants who has a capital letter. Treat people like people in any normal social situation. Be polite. Don’t call some random girlie or boy ‘sub’ .. they are not a sandwich. They are people with names. Respect that and it goes both ways for a capital letter person or a lowercase person.

I’m sick atm so my patience levels are pretty short right now and I’m on grumpy mode so it’ll be a short, sharp reminder if that bullshit goes on.

Fetish events are a great way to meet and talk to people who might have similar interests and it’s also a place where these days I seem to talk to people who are curious and delving and the amount of times I have had to reinforce the fact that people are just people, everyone does things their own way and it’s totally cool. Safety and respect for others spaces is important. Not touching other peoples toys and not approaching someone in a scene. I giggle at the “don’t approach my ‘sub’” shit …. most of the submissives and slaves I know are quite well equipped to handle shit if it occurs. Usually it’s the idiots who waltz into a fetish event and think it’s an ‘ easy pick up spot for sex’ that try it and they get verbally pummeled pretty fast. It NEVER works infact it’s bloody amusing and it will get you absolutely nowhere. The ther thing is there are seasoned people there who know when there are new people about and they ‘watch you’. They are also protective of the newer type submissive ones and will keep an eye out for untoward behaviour and step in if they think there is a need.

Ask questions. LOTS of them, don’t ever be worried that you sound silly it shows you actually give a shit and that you have the intelligence to ask questions in the first place but think about what you ask first don’t assume anything. Most people are very approachable and will happily chat to you and answer questions. Talk to them like normal people don’t act all silly. Events like this are meant to fun, a place to watch, learn, and sometimes participate. The biggest thing that makes me laugh is when a Dom or Domme decides to demonstrate or let someone try something out and then suddenly there’s this assumption that because you might have had a flogging or a caning from this wonderful person they are now your Dom/Domme. W.T.F? No. You had a wee flogging, get the fuck over it.

Lol. May sound harsh but after a few times it gets ridiculously mad.

All. the. time.

If however you are quite ‘normal’ and go along to an event and meet some wonderfully wicked people and had so much fun you want to go back again then by all means go for it! Life is short. Maybe one day i might bang into you, say hi if you do come along to one.

I promise I won’t bite … hard.

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I hummed and hahhed over what to write as there’s really not much one can write about a riding crop without it becoming rather boring so I decided instead photographs may well do it more justice than what I can verbally. If you like crops then this one is on my top list, Spartacus never fails to impress me with the quality of their kink toys and this sadistic little beauty is just one more.

This one I have is the Heart Bat and is manufactured by a favourite company of mine as mentioned, Spartacus.  This crop is 25″ in length which is pretty standard as far as regular riding crops go so it’s a good length for playing, and this one also doesn’t have too much give in the handle which means the impacts from this wee beauty are nice and direct and they pull power. We did muck about with this one and found that actually holding the handle still and pulling back on the crop part and letting go delivered more powerful stingy slaps than using the whole arm, all the power transferred straight to my ass in this circumstance. It doesn’t really leave ‘heart shaped’ marks and after looking at it and having a wee giggle it was decided it’s not a heart shape but rather a ‘bottom bending over shape’

It’s not a heavy crop but not overly lightweight either and it gives good control when handling it. It’s not at all flimsy like some crops out there, it’s well made and a sturdy crop. The handle also has a leather casing to enable a better grip and is capped at both ends with chrome covers.  The handle end is tipped with a chrome cap which has the little Spartacus guy on the end which is quite funkeh.

The stitching and workmanship is of excellent quality, the rod has a standard woven stem, the stem itself feels like some form of fibreglass rod but I can’t be 100% sure without pulling it apart,  and the lower crop end is made up of two heart shaped (or bottom shaped) pieces of high quality leather which are stiched together around the base of the rod but not wholey glued or stitched together all around so in essence they are two flaps and with time will soften more and probably creating a slapping sound when used as most do.

The lower crop end is reinforced with thin wire … ths is the one thing that gives this crop evil tendencies. If you miss with the leather part you are likely to impact the skin with this harder wire woven area and could leave some interesting wlets so be careful and practice on a bloody pillow or something if you are not proficient at using a crop.

To look after the leather sections clean with a damp cloth and treat with your favourite leather conditioner when needed.You can get this in black or a red leatherheart to match your freshly cropped buttocks

Thanks to Carrie Ann and the team at Eden Fantasys for letting me share this with you guys. Next on the list … my ongoing sharp and pointy obsession … impy gets to play with the Wartenburg Wheel “beams’

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