There was a question in that place and I’m gonna be Aunty Impy ‘beams’and be all helpful and stuff
.. how does a submissive assert her needs?erm… you know… just like i would in any relationship? or within my role as a submissive? (how???) or … it depends how it all comes up?
And then I see this answer…
Hopefully you have a dom that will allow for a little bit of a time out so you can talk about needs and expectations respectfully but as equals.
Seriously?
I’m gonna leave the ‘equals’ bit out of it cause I know plenty of dynamics that the word equal doesn’t come into it. And I don’t personally have an issue with that. People decide how they do stuff and that’s fine by me. But the other part? It irks me. Allow for a little time so you can talk?
Any relationship needs a level of good sound communication. Being able to talk to one another about everything and anything IS important. To even contemplate not being able to discuss things in an adult manner when they arise and instead choose to be a dumbass and not talk about stuff is plain silly. Brains do not fall out of your arse when you decide to submit.
And this one …
I have met a few subs and slaves, who when I meet them or start talking to them I ask them to call me Sir. I have been told you havnt earned that respect yet. I dont get this Im not asking you to submit Im just asking to be addressed properly, this reply I get seems disrespectful. When I hear you havnt earn that its a huge put off, Im not asking you to kneel or being rude when asking, if you have ever been in the south Sir and Ma’am are expected no matter age, lifestyle or not. I dont think its that crazy to ask and little things like the subs/slaves who say Sir without being asked get huge respect from me.
‘blinks’
Gosh. Well for a start you are on an international site so the chances of expecting everyone to call you Sir just cause you expect it is a little obnoxious. There are a fuckton of people who have never been to the ‘South’ and it’s not part of their own cultural upbringing. Here down near the Antarctic where the penguins do their thing we generally address people by their names. Re reading that it seems a case of I AM DOM HEAR ME ROAR.
Do you go up to random people and demand they call you Sir? I’d like to see you do it here at a public event in my neck of the woods.
Same applys on the interwebz. It’s not really about the fact that you haven’t earnt it … it’s more like you are living in a cute little bubble of fantasy and someone’s come along and shoved a pin in it and now you have a megaton of holes in your bubble and you can’t work out why it keeps happening.
Try this … I betcha it’ll work….
Hi I’m *insert normal everyday name here*. I would love to chat some more if you are interested.
But then I’m warped. I get messages like …
I’ve been stalking you for ages and I just wanted to tell you that you would look awesome all tied up and kept under my stairs in the basement.
‘grins’
And last but least for today … one of the most asked questions …
I was just curious who was willing to say what their safeword is and why.
Mine is ‘fuck yew’ … and for the record it doesn’t work.




















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