“Fantasies are more than substitutes for unpleasant reality; they are also dress rehearsals, plans. All acts performed in the world begin in the imagination.”

~Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

There is a reason Mills & Boons books sell. Gor books, BDSM erotica, kinked movies & novels … because they are based on fantasy, a fictional fantasy

The stuff the above don’t generally cover is reality. Why? Because they don’t sell. Mortgages, trying to keep a job and pay the bills, bring up a family, go to meetings, attend university, fundraise for oh my gosh … vanilla events, sports , the stuff that all of us do.

Everyday.

Those people?

I like them because they have a sense of self. They don’t need to live by books or fantasies. They walk the walk and they go through the trials and tribulations of life. They understand their own sexuality enough to seek what they need without telling anyone else how they should be doing it. They share with friends their fears and joys, the hard stuff and the good times. There is respect and love and genuine understanding.

They are kinky because they like being kinky. They have nothing to prove to anyone.

They don’t have any need to.

The best part? They don’t need to tell anyone they are ‘real’ or ‘true’.

They just are.

And that’s what makes them beautiful.