I’m off to another fetish night tonight and looking forward to a few hours of ‘downtime’. Woooo.

It’s been a crazy week and I’ve been working on assignments all weekend and sleeping. Last time we dealt with a complete and utter tardhead who had no concept of general social skills or manners. With any social BDSM event there’s a basic standard of behaviour expected by most people and I say most because there is always some idiot that makes a dick of themselves. Stupid really because if you do act like a tard you pretty much seal the deal on not ever being welcome back again.

Basic manners are not much to expect. I don’t go around calling every Tom, Dick and Hariet ‘Sir’ or ‘Mistress’ thats just dumb and any fuckwit that expects me to is just that … a fuckwit. The only people that get that from me are special people not some random fucker in leather pants who has a capital letter. Treat people like people in any normal social situation. Be polite. Don’t call some random girlie or boy ‘sub’ .. they are not a sandwich. They are people with names. Respect that and it goes both ways for a capital letter person or a lowercase person.

I’m sick atm so my patience levels are pretty short right now and I’m on grumpy mode so it’ll be a short, sharp reminder if that bullshit goes on.

Fetish events are a great way to meet and talk to people who might have similar interests and it’s also a place where these days I seem to talk to people who are curious and delving and the amount of times I have had to reinforce the fact that people are just people, everyone does things their own way and it’s totally cool. Safety and respect for others spaces is important. Not touching other peoples toys and not approaching someone in a scene. I giggle at the “don’t approach my ‘sub’” shit …. most of the submissives and slaves I know are quite well equipped to handle shit if it occurs. Usually it’s the idiots who waltz into a fetish event and think it’s an ‘ easy pick up spot for sex’ that try it and they get verbally pummeled pretty fast. It NEVER works infact it’s bloody amusing and it will get you absolutely nowhere. The ther thing is there are seasoned people there who know when there are new people about and they ‘watch you’. They are also protective of the newer type submissive ones and will keep an eye out for untoward behaviour and step in if they think there is a need.

Ask questions. LOTS of them, don’t ever be worried that you sound silly it shows you actually give a shit and that you have the intelligence to ask questions in the first place but think about what you ask first don’t assume anything. Most people are very approachable and will happily chat to you and answer questions. Talk to them like normal people don’t act all silly. Events like this are meant to fun, a place to watch, learn, and sometimes participate. The biggest thing that makes me laugh is when a Dom or Domme decides to demonstrate or let someone try something out and then suddenly there’s this assumption that because you might have had a flogging or a caning from this wonderful person they are now your Dom/Domme. W.T.F? No. You had a wee flogging, get the fuck over it.

Lol. May sound harsh but after a few times it gets ridiculously mad.

All. the. time.

If however you are quite ‘normal’ and go along to an event and meet some wonderfully wicked people and had so much fun you want to go back again then by all means go for it! Life is short. Maybe one day i might bang into you, say hi if you do come along to one.

I promise I won’t bite … hard.