I have been called mischeivious, an imp, a brat, cheeky, smartassed, witty, a ratbag and a whole myriad of other funny names. I am each and every one of them. I am a mother, a friend, a uni student, a designer, a housewench, dominant in daily life and submissive to rarely anyone. And the ‘imp’ is always present to some degree in all of those roles.
I live to laugh, to love and have no regrets. I cherish my family and extended family of close friends.
What pisses me off? Actually it’s pissed me off for a long time in varying degrees. People who think it’s okay to tell me I’m disrespectful to those I chose to play with, that my type of play is dangerous, that I’m naughty, that I’m badly trained, that I’m not a real sub because I’m not submissive to some fucktard with a capital letter label, yada yada yada. People who have an opinion on how I should behave just because there’s a label attached to what I have on a fucking profile page or it’s known I am not the D type when it comes to kink. It’s none of your goddamn business what that chosen dynamic is and I’m sure if I was disrespectful or whatever I’d be told … by them. Their opinion is the only one that counts as far as I am concerned. Actually I find it relatively funny when someone who doesn’t know me at all decides they can have an opinion on what my submission entails. It happens every now and then.It’s fucking hillarious. Little comments, glances, confusion.
Seriously WTF?
I know I am not the only one who is a brat. I’m not the only one who hears and sees this utter bullshit online and offline. Those that appreciate brats know what we are about. There is no malice, we live for fun, we thrive on it. Most wonderful slaves I have the privilege of knowing and quite a few submissive women are some of the most strongest personalities I know. And gawd I love them for it.
Hence I don’t play in public very often. There are only a few places where I feel comfortable being myself. Normally I’d rather go be a voyeristic shit and not play and just hang out and watch other people. Some people can’t help but be judgemental cunts in those circumstances. I’m loud, bratty and if I get the chance I strike back, I swear, and if you cross a boundary you will damn well hear about it lol. I love the playful glint I see when play is engaged. I love the adrenaline. I love the challenge even when I know my ass is going to get kicked. And the whole time there is laughter.
For me that’s what it’s about. If it ain’t fun why bother? Don’t get me wrong there are times when I want to kill people, when I am on the verge of tears, when I am hating what’s goin on and I wanna get off the bus. But I like to push myself and my own limits and boundaries. The dance between the sadist and the masochist is a journey that enthralls me, entices me and feeds me. It is an exchange of energies at it’s purest primal sense.
Pretty simple huh? For some they can’t get their heads around it and that’s fine but one thing … respect me, you don’t have to like it but keep your damn opinions to yourself when you don’t know shit.
Just because you do BDSM doesn’t give you the right to tell me or anyone I am with what they or I should be doing or how we should act. Enjoy your own kinky world and appreciate others do it differently and as long as they are having fun then it’s all good.
Impy – doin it wrong and lovin it.
Belladonnax
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 00:56:
Addendum :
To all those people who are ‘concerned’ about Impy’s behaviour – cheers and all but ~fuck off and mind your own business~. Don’t you have a sub of your own to stress over? don’t you have your own dom/me to deal with? Get off her case and leave her alone. If you actually had anything constructive to say you’d be approaching me or the domly dude concerned, I’m sure you all know how to get in touch with us. And if we gave a fuck about your retarded opinion we’d ask you, seeing as how you wrote the Bible of BDSM an’ all.
So! until we hear from you, feel free to fuck off in a northerly direction and die in a chemical fire.
We’re happy with how the Impy behaves. We like dealing with a girlie who’s got some clue (which is why we don’t deal with YOU).
Capiche? great. See You Next Tuesday.
Belladonnax.
ps. we won’t be holding our breath waiting for your Formal Epistle of Concernz either. chickenshit.
vanimp
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 01:00:
Bahahahaha and this is why I luffs you xxxxxx
I shall bring you cups of tea when I see you next and I may even do it crawling with teeth 
Belladonnax
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 01:04:
Impy, you are the bestest bad bad girlie there evah was, and you make THE BRILLIANT CUPS OF TEA. And if I get any letters of BarelyConcealedJealousBitchiness about your terrible behaviors I will print ‘em out, chop ‘em up into nice little squares and we shall use them for Loo Paperz.
geezus h christ I have no idea why some people are so pathetic. Nothing you do is any of their business, and if they were that much ‘old skool’ they’d bitch to the proper department.
maybe they are somewhat concerned about approaching the domly dude and my sweet demure self? :p surely nawt.
anyway back to gloating over your awesome uni marks and all-round brilliance, intelligence and wit, I lovez yooo toooooooo xxx
vanimp
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 01:08:
That’s what I do find amusing is it’s the old school types that do comment yet they say it to me and then get laughed at or they mutter it close by. Tis fucking amusing really. I don’t get this assumption that I should be all submissive and shit to someone I don’t know that happens to D someone else and even more ridiculous when they don’t even have a sub.
Heh mebe you two scare people ‘beams’
Thing is when it’s someone I respect the kink label isn’t on my radar I am looking at a person as a whole not what freekin label they carry when they happen to be wearing a bit of leather. Ugh. It’s so clandestine.
Yes back to being my awesome norty self
xxx
Belladonnax
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 01:14:
I reckon we shall create a business card referring all whingers to this particular post, so we don’t have to waste oxygen explaining it to ‘em :p
vanimp
on Jun 24th, 2010
@ 01:16:
I’m sure I could whip something up
lissy
on Jun 28th, 2010
@ 00:48:
The dance between the sadist and the masochist is a journey that enthralls me, entices me and feeds me. It is an exchange of energies at it’s purest primal sense.
Yes! This is why I love being a brat… is that a line oh sadistic one? why I will skip and dance along it la di la di la!
Bugger other people’s opinions… phht!