Well I said I would do a write up on the orgasm meme and share with you what I have discovered.  It’s interesting stuff and bound for some interesting conversational points.

Mostly women answered the meme’s questions and a nice wee group of men too which was uber cool. What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in a male’s  body when he ejaculates.  In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy. Now here’s something interesting …

Average length of time it takes a woman to have an orgasm: 20 minutes.

Average length of time it takes a man: 2-5 minutes.

One of the questions was asking whether you fantasize during masturbating. Many women said they don’t, they are too busy getting to the ultimate goal, the fantasizing and getting in the mood and all horny and ragey is done beforehand or a general build up to get in the mood then it’s down to business.  So when you ask “What are you thinking” .. she really does mean nothing if she says so, really. She’s busy wanking. Guys on the other hand, they like to fantasize. So yes the female and male brain do have different ways of reaching the same goal.

So anyway, the orgasm “moment”‘ is characterised by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds.  Like I bloody count at the time lol but thats what the scientific facts are anyways. A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women ‘ejaculate’ is not correct. Only a minority of females do this. This came through in the meme … many have squirted or think they may have, a few haven’t but are curious, for many it isn’t a regular occurence though. Plenty are curious. And many have discovered this randomly through accident. Interestingly in sex studies many women who enjoy having their G-spots touched claim that they ejaculate during these intense orgasms. As for the guys well yea they all boasted they squirt everytime go figure hehe.

Orgasms vary from person to person and for each individual at different times. This came through in the meme as well. Not one answer was exactly the same as another. Sometimes orgasm is an explosive, amazing rush of sensations, while others are milder, subtler, and less intense. Then there are the clitoral and vaginal orgasms, g-spot orgasms as well as anal. Infact around 70% of ALL women do not usually (or sometimes ever) experience a sexual climax from penis-in-vagina intercourse alone. It came up in the meme that alot of participants like to use sex toys as aids in achieving orgasms and to simply have fun. And yup Mista Hitachi won the top spot as a favourite. Clitoral stimulation comes in at second and the majority cannot handle or dislike the clit being directly stimulated straight after orgasm.

The differences in intensity of orgasms can be attributed to physical factors, such as fatigue and length of time since last orgasm, as well as to a wide range of psychosocial factors, including mood, relation to partner, activity, expectations, and feelings about the experience. Many love the end of the day just before sleep orgasm, it’s relaxing and it’s a great aid for the insomniac. Many at anyother time of the day find orgasms to be energizing. There isn’t one time of the day that favors over another.

We all love orgasms whenever the opportunity is good. Everyone agreed and orgasm is a surefire stress relief. And yano no one said they don’t like to orgasm.

Whilst masturbating it was a given that the intent was to have an orgasm, many said it was perfectly fine if  they didn’t orgasm everytime during sex.

The reason I did the meme was to prove a point to myself that no matter how many freekin surveys you can do on something like a personal experience with orgasm, not one answer is going to be exactly the same.

If you wanna read some more then go check them out…

Kinky Kiana

Kitten Pup

Bucking Bill

Panthera

Sage

Vixen

And if you missed the other two posts you can find them here & here.

Microfantasy Monday is suppossed to be a short piece of erotic writing. But honestly I have sat here all day trying to conjure up some sexy wee story to tantalise and entertain. Alas instead I felt the need to purge. So purge I did …

In the dark places that rest in my mind, rusty and cobwebbed, locked away in a coffin you sit. You have been banished to the far away recesses that never heal, they simply stagnate. Memories I wish I could wipe away and forget. Your dark disease spreading it’s filth. It’s sickness. Your illness.

You hurt those you seek to destroy with your words. The alcoholic haze that clouds your mind drifts out to taint others. When you should have been there for me instead I found you lying in your own piss stained jeans, drool forming at the corner of your mouth, the stale smell of beer tainting the summer air.

When you should have been there encouraging me and supporting me and helping me to grow, you sat in your throne, dictating anger, insults and shame.Drinking yourself into that dark hole you seemed to find so comforting.

Instead of a man I could look up to, I looked away. I hid in fear. I was ashamed. Lost.

I am the little girl that never knew what it was really like to have a father.

Because of your selfishness and hate you carried you lashed out at me, even though I was not to blame for your hurts. You hurt me over and over, battering my mind,  to make yourself feel better.

You are the first human soul that taught me how to hate.

For that … you are not and never will be, my father.

That’s not what a Daddy is. That’s not what a man is.

Sunday afternoon here, I am hiding out in my room music playing while the kids run themselves ragged outside. Casserole cooking in the crockpot so we get a nom hearty Winter feed tonight. Molten is off to Aussie this afternoon for three days for work so I will most definitely be missing her company. Friday night was spent with Molten and I and a good friend drinking wine till 1am and I got rather pished. Saturday morning Velvet and I went out on a shopping expedition. He found some velcro and some material for a bug board he is building (cause Molten is a wriggle butt hehe) and lo and behold whilst at the counter there was an innocent wee container of upholstery tacks. The idea of making some vampire gloves is now a strong possiblity as well as sadistic murmurs about making a tack bra … ugh. (Lucky he hasn’t got enough for that *snikker*). We then found a cool shop that had rolls and rolls of linen and I discovered some gorgeous feeling dark brown, suede backed fur … I walked out with 2 1/2 metres of the stuff and it’s now found a home on my bed lol. Being the little sensation slut I am I had it in my bed late last night sleeping on it naked … fucking glorious soft and very warm.

We had an awesome night last night at a friends place with a whole lot of kinky friends gathered around together for the monthly lesbian pizza and porn night. Lotsa hugs and snuggles. Scrumptious pizza from a place up here that is run by two women who know how to make a damn fine pizza and we then watched a movie called Zombie Strippers. I wouldn’t have classified it as porn but it was a good movie with lots of gore and funny shit. The second movie wasn’t so great and after about 15 mins it got stopped.Lot’s of fun throwing lollies into girls boobies and the winner getting to eat them out of all that cleavage. Molten and Velvet both jumped on me and poked & cracked my back and today I am quite blah and ouchies but happy.

The most entertaining part of the night was Molten running to the door to greet friends who had arrived with pizzas with her panties round her ankles hehe. Thanks to Curvaceous Dee we got mementos hehe (Molten is gonna kill me *grin*)

It’s Winter Solstice here downunder today so no doubt later I will curl up in my den and do my pagan thing, good food, red wine and a wee little bit of contemplating and perhaps a tarot reading. It’s averaging between 2 – 6 degrees in the mornings here at the moment so it’s a good time of the year for me to stay in my den and do all the geeky nerd things like reading and writing alot. My brother is squeeing this morning as he has nine new baby staffy pups and I am organising a trip to see him and the puppies next week hopefully. I’m so excited and at the same time sad that I have the perfect chance to have a new familiar as a pet yet I cannot have a dog here. I miss having a little shadow about and I miss those wee doggy snuggles.

Right now … ima gonna go curl up on mah new furry bed and read in the sun x

He watched her,  the steady whir of the fucking machine beside him. Her moans and whimpers causing his cock to harden. Her arms straining against the rope that held her in place. He lit a cigarette and leaned back in the chair, feet on the bed beside her. On her heaving chest sat two clamps with pert, rose colored nipples peering through each of them.

He picked up the crop and flicked one clamp off and a wave of lust raged though his loins hearing her cry out and strain against her binds.

A second clamp flicked off with one swift movement in his wrist, another mewl,  the pressure of a hungry cock becoming too much.

He shoved the cigarette in his mouth, hands hastily undoing the zip on his jeans,  ash drifted to the floor beside his feet.

He sat there watching her. He loved to watch.

Every now and then he would change the speed, ramp it up a little have her back arching and hips humping the imposing sized dildo. His mind calculating how much longer she would last before that point where all senses were lost,the point of no return. He could see her muscles tensing, she, very close. He stubbed the cigarette out and took a sip of his whiskey.

He switched the machine off and pushed it out of the way. Anger, frustration escaped her lips.

“Oh you mother fucker”

He chuckled a little as he knew how she hated him teasing her with denial.

“You really shouldn’t call people names my pet, it’s rather rude. You really don’t learn do you … the correct phrase is Thank You Sir …”

She gasped as he ran his nails along her skin from her collarbone, between her breasts and sharply ending just above her engorged clit.  Following with three hard slaps to her pussy before she could get her breath back. She writhed and thrashed as much as she could to get away from those claws but to no avail. He breathed in deeply smelling her, the scent of an aroused woman was one of his favourite things. He admired those shapely legs of hers, the black silk stockings now drenched in sweat and her own juices.

He positioned himself between her legs, smirking. He hands her the Hitachi and grins.

“You pet, are going to hold this on your clit and fucking keep it there. If you want an orgasm, I will most definitely give you one pet. Infact I’m going to give you alot more than one. That will teach you to be a greedy little whore. We are going to have you begging me to stop.”

Her eyes widened, a groan as his hard cock slammed into her. The Hitachi pushed onto her clit her hand clamped down on it, his hand covering hers.

Machines are good he mused, but not as good as what I am about to do…

I have a busy weekend ahead and a few things to attend to so it may be quiet here over the next couple of days. Spending time with Velvet & Molten are at the top of my list.

I am also currently working on an idea that involves writing a review on here on a regular basis with Eden Fantasys but in my own special way as I do not want to inundate the blog with reviews and take away from what I do here already. I have too big of a fetish with writing erotica and all the other snippets I do.

If you haven’t seen a recent post regarding the Orgasm Meme I started please take a look and perhaps share your thoughts along with the many who have already done so. It’s quite fascinating! And I am so chuffed because we already have two male perspectives in the mix! It is proving to be an interesting wee exercise and after reading them all this morning I had the urge to go and relieve myself with my own orgasm or three hehe. You gotta love that daaaamn  Hitachi. (it took me a while to come back from lala land)

Here’s mine lol …

1.     What’s your favourite way to have an orgasm?
Doggy style most definitely, it hits all the right spots and allows toy use too. And double penetration always does it. Or one of those slow hawt sex escapades where it builds to a screaming crescendo.

2.     Do you use a sex toy? Hands? or both?
I can use my hands but I never get an orgasm out of just using my hands, and I have repetitive strain injury from an old job which can make using my hands painful so I prefer the use of a vibe. I have a clit that is a bitch so she needs lotsa stimulation.

3.     Do you have a favourite time of day or night that you like to pleasure yourself or have sex?
I love middle of the night sex, sleepy sex and morning sex, during the day is great but I am normally in work mode and busy brain mode

4.     Do you feel you have different types of orgasms?
Hell yes, clit, g-spot, dp ones are over the top intense. Then there’s the ones that just keep going and going

5.     Do you have a position or a technique that always guarantees an orgasm?
Doggy with the Hitachi on the clit and g spot stimulation, usually means I end up on my face in a drooling heap, or a good pounding with my feet wrapped round my ears.

6.    Is having your clit directly stimulated pleasurable for you? What about after an orgasm?
Yes. After orgasm highly likely I will trun into demon spawn and tell you to keep your fucking hands off my clit or my eyes will roll into the back of my headand I disappear into the land of gaga. Either that or it’s so damn sensitive that it hurts.

7.     Do you masturbate/pleasure yourself?
Yes, often. Especially after reading too much erotica or watching kinky porn.

8.     Has your self pleasuring repertoire/routine/technique changed or evolved over time?
Always changing, especially with new toys and different partners.

9.     Are sex toys part of your self pleasuring or with a partner? Or both?
Totally both, kinky and non kinky. My favourite toys though are a guys hands and teeth.

10.  If you enjoy using sex toys how often do you upgrade your equipment?
Hmm when I break stuff or when I want something faster, more powerful or more evil to sate my needs.

11.  Whats the most intense orgasm you have ever had?
Hah! Actually now I look back my very first orgasm had me completely gaga to the point I couldn’t move or speak but at the time I had no idea what the fuck was going on with my body, nowdays I know better and I want some more of that please hehe.

12.  How often do you orgasm? Daily, more than once a day, weekly, monthly….???
Depends on what’s going on at the time, sometimes a few a day, sometimes none for days. I like to have them on a regular basis.

13.  Do you regard orgasm to be a stress reliever?
Fuck yes, totally. Great for crampy tummy and headaches too. Also brilliant for an insomniac who can’t sleep lol.

14.  What happens to you after orgasm? Full of energy, a bit lala or ready to go to sleep?
I am just like a guy, I sleep. Or I am space cadet for a bit and then I am rearing to go.

15.  Have you ever squirted?
No. I’m curious but I don’t want to start and then do it all the time. I have ishoos with messy things lol.

16.  Do you fantasize when you masturbate? Or do you just get right down to it?
Nope. I fantasize before but not during. Switch the mind on first and the rest follows. I’m too busy getting off to fantasize at the time.

17.  What do you like about having an orgasm? Is it important you have an orgasm every time?
I like sitting there feeling like a headless goof straight afterwards. I love what an orgasm does to my whole body. I love watching a partner orgasm, that point where the intensity is sat there right on their face. I love the release. I like orgasms but I don’t have one everytime, does it bother me? Yea sometimes when I walk around like a crazed horny beast afterwards not satisfied, other times I don’t give a shit if I don’t.

So there you have it, that’s mine.

The point of doing this was simply because I am a curious wee thing and love how the human mind works and I am genuinely intrigued as to how we all explore ourselves sexually. The other reason is my love of writing and the need to get more inside people’s heads to be able to write even better erotica to tantalise those senses. And I have to feed the hungry eyes that frequent here as well as my own fantasys.

It has also given breath to some interesting talking points as far as orgasms and the female and male approach, the subtle differences we all have to achieve that amazing state of bliss, and the fact that so many are willing to share. It’s uber cool. It’s something I will expand on more in the follow up post on Tuesday.

So if you haven’t had a go, please do. I like people who like to share their most private thoughts. For those of you who are curious as to what others have written there are some links below, pop over and say hi and if you are not on the list, then please let me know so I can link you and have a gander.

Hubman

Another Suburban Mom

Dewey’s *ucking System

Secret Life of a Slummy Mummy

Sexy PTA Mom

Licentiously Yours

Kinky Kiana