Some of these discussions I see I just shake my head and think WTF? There’s a convo regarding safewords and why one can’t just use the word no. Lol well for the common sense reasons when and if you have played then you already know what no can mean at times. No, no don’t oh fuck yes. No, yes do it again. No is a word that comes up a lot in scening, no stop, no more, no no no oh god yes, no please no, but none of these normally mean NO STOP … or do they? How would you know? Wouldn’t it be easier to have an obscure word so when it was uttered it was damn clear there was a major problem? Check in during the scene with each other, communication goes a long way.
But what really got me was simply who gives a shit if someone has a safeword? Seriously what business is it off yours if another couple have one to use. It’s their choice, their business. What fucking right does someone else have to judge whether or not it’s right or wrong. For fucks sake how damn pathetic.
So many things like this fuck me off. Judgemental preconcieved ideas that if you don’t do this or that then you are not right. You’re doing it WRONG. In who views exactly? Is someone’s ego so self absorbed that they couldn’t for a moment understand why someone else would think and act differently than them?
Personally I have my own reasons for and against the use of safewords, but they are my own personal views and something that is only discussed with the person I am playing with. It’s no one else’s business. At the end of the day it’s an individual choice between consenting adults whether or not to use one and what that safeword would be. Whether or not that word is no or something else you are both comfortable with. And whether or not that safeword continues to stay or if later down the track when a relationship deepens, the need for one may not be an issue. So it comes down to who you are, who you are playing with and what you are doing and whether or not no is good enough a word or another is desired.
It’s an individual choice, and an individual decision to use one or not.
Everyday I see this bullshit being discussed. Argued about and people belittled for their choices.
So what if they do something different than you do. If it works for them then why does it have to be the wrong way?
Meh. So fucking stupid.
Yea and I can say fuck alot *snikker*
velvet_steel
on Mar 30th, 2009
@ 15:50:
The bad thing about being smarter than other people, is the endless reminders of just how narrow minded and dumb people can be.
The good thing is, of course, being smarter than other people.
Tristan's pet
on Mar 30th, 2009
@ 23:41:
Have you been letting the FetLife trolls get to you….you know, the ‘subbier than thou’ types and the self appointed sub hierarchy police. Tossers, all of ‘em. Don’t they realise just how f’in stupid they make themselves look with their ridiculous posturing? Like we’d change the way we do things to suit their definitions….yeah right. Ass hats.
/end rant
Tp xxx
vanimp
on Mar 30th, 2009
@ 23:44:
Nah not this time lol, it’s a plethora of teh whole hoopla and how many people get sucked into it all, only to discover down the track they have done a complete circle and found themselves again. Sometimes it’s good to remind people they are unique
How many more sleeps now wittle rabbit?
(am so happy for you) xxx