When I write I try to write from the heart and mind, mine. I don’t expect every single person who reads my ramblings to agree with what I write because I simply don’t care if they do or not. I don’t write to placate someone else’s views. What I love are those that write this way also. They write because they have something to say. It doesn’t matter if some disagree, they are entitled to their opinions it’s what discussion is all about and in a sense that’s what comments are for on blogs. If you didn’t want comments then there’s an easy way to stop them … turn them off. What I don’t get is when someone writes and wants comments and then gets pissy over what is said. I have happened across a few blogs of late and sat there chuckling at the shit being flung backwards and forwards. It’s ridiculous really. But all the same a small form of amusement for maybe a brief second or two.

It’s alot worse on Fetlife. My god some days I sit there in disbelief at some of the crap that flies there. Apparently you are not allowed an opinion. Well yes you are, but be prepared to have the hounds of snark on your ass if they don’t like what you have to say. I like to read and sometimes the urge to join a group just to simply put an idea forward tempts me but then I change my mind, I’ll stick to the group I run and reading, it’s easier that way. I get passionate about some things.

Today I happened across a discussion as to whether or not someone has the right to call themselves a slave or a master if they are not in a D/s relationship, unowned. Seriously … really? Since when is it anyone else’s decision to actually decide what you can and can’t think. The art of discussion there is always riddled with emotion. And most of the time it tends to stray away from the actual question asked.

It got me thinking, do I have the right to call myself submissive when I am not actually in a serious D/s situation. My answer for me, yes but it doesn’t mean along with that word that I am going to act a certain way in normal situations or in a social situation, I act like “me”. It means simply I understand what I need in a relationship to function at my best in a D/s situation. That’s it really and it saves alot of time replying to fucktards who are looking for a Mistress LOL. It doesn’t mean however that I am some meek woman who needs a label to exist. It’s also not something I choose to show or share unless I choose to.

Slave, submissive, fecking monkey it doesn’t bloody matter, what matters is only what you feel, I wonder sometimes why those questions are asked. Do they need validation as to who they are? I don’t need to explain it to anyone all I need to do is acknowledge deep feelings and latent parts of myself that sometimes come to the fore in a chosen situation and that is mine to own, no one else’s. Not one person is the same and it’s how I feel about this whole labelling bollocks. It’s just a word that loosely encompasses something that is much, much bigger but cannot be seen only felt. And not one person can feel the same as another in that sense. Only you know who you are.

It’s utter bullshit this habit of some people to try and fit other into their views on the world and how someone should think like them just because they said so.

I respect the fact that people have opinions, hell there’s nothing wrong with that and you know, mine probably ain’t that great at times either. It’s okay to be an individual and stand up for what you believe in but being an adult about it and sometimes being humble are a good thing too. Admitting our fuck ups is the greatest lesson, and forgiveness is another too. No one is perfect and not one person has all the answers. It’s called being hooman