I have twitter as you may have noticed on the sidebar. It’s how I keep an eye on what’s going on in the blogging world hehe or one way… I like to follow other bloggers who write about kink, but not just about good old sex but about their lives, their passions and their innermost thoughts, and I have begun very beautiful online friendships this way, some I am lucky to meet. In little old NZ, there’s not alot of us that write about kink or their sex lives for that matter. So it’s cool when I read about what affects my life in the country I live in, the social morals here and how things are changing for the better.

Civil unions in New Zealand were passed into law on 9 December 2004 when Parliament passed the Civil Union Act to establish the institution of civil union for same-sex and heterosexual couples. The Act has been described as very similar to the Marriage Act with references to “marriage” replaced by “civil union”. A companion bill, the Relationships (Statutory References) Bill, was passed shortly thereafter on 15 March 2005, to remove discriminatory provisions on the basis of relationship status from a range of statutes and regulations. As a result of these bills, all couples in New Zealand, whether married, in a civil union, or in a de facto partnership, now generally enjoy the same rights and undertake the same obligations. These rights extend to immigration, next-of-kin status, social welfare, matrimonial property and other areas. Non-married couples are not however permitted to adopt children, although people in non-marital relationships can adopt as individuals.

I’m pagan. I don’t believe in the traditional “white wedding”. I pretty much don’t like doing what everyone else does, to a point, I never have, I prefer to do the things I feel comfortable with. My ex had me engaged but that’s as far as it ever went because I wasn’t interested in the whole thing at the time, so I agreed to become engaged for a while, now I look back that was just stupid, I wasn’t interested in the whole wedding hoopla.

Sure some of my family have gone down the route of the white wedding, and hell they enjoyed it. I’m not Christian, I don’t see why if I want to make a committment to my life partner (if I had one haha), has to be in a church or using any form of Christian tradition, what a lie of a day because it doesn’t hold any of my beliefs. If I am going to commit to someone it’s not because of other’s beliefs, opinions or desires as to the how …. it’s the why, it’s about the two people who are comitting to each other in whatever form that takes. It’s for those two people alone, their path.

CurvaceousDee wrote about her civil union. It was bloody refreshing to read something about a wonderful couple doing what works for them. I totally support the civil union idea and now thanks to the law being introduced in NZ I could have a legal handfasting or simply a get together and do what I am comfortable with, if that ever arose, hehe bugger that right now thanks.

A relative of mine went overseas a few years back, she went backpacking in Europe, a young single kiwi chick out on an adventure. She met a german guy and for three weeks they cruised around Germany and he showed her the sights, three weeks more and they were married in a registry office. It’s twenty-two years later and they are still very much in love and still together. I love telling this story because I have had the pleasure of watching this relationship. It’s beautiful. It also reminds me anything can happen and it doesn’t have to be the way everyone envisages it should be.

One of my siblings is getting married next year,the church, the big white dress is being organised for the bride, they are all running amok like twatters on amphetamine’s organising it and I am sat back watching with a sly amusement thinking, what exactly are you doing it for? If you love each other why not have a simple get together, have a civil union, spend the money on much needed things, clear your debt, they are both very young.

But if this is their dream then so be it who am I to judge, right?

What right does any other person have to tell you how it should be?

Kinda like kink ain’t it? You do what fits and works for you.

It’s just nice to see the laws changing with the times and accepting that society is changing, the way we view relationships is changing, slowly but surely.

I blame Dee totally for this rambling post haha, she made the muse in me rise to the surface, brilliant post she did and the article, go read it if you haven’t already. x