There’s sub frenzy, which is pretty much self explanatory, the craving desire or need to experience some form of dominance whether it be little or alot, most submissives in this state will grasp at any form of dominance they can feed off. The majority of the time they run head first into a situation that is not healthy because of the “itch that needs to be scratched”. It’s not a nice state to be in and many are unaware they are dealing with it.

Then there’s sub drop. Everyone in this lifestyle who undertakes any kind of exciting play, whether it be cyber based, physical, mental, or any combination of these can suffer from some form of sub drop. It’s not just about being in a scene and experiencing it after play, it can be sutle and sneak up on you when you least expect it.And you don’t have to be in a 24/7 situation to experience it either.

The first weekend I spent up north I did experience it, extremely drained, almost withdrawing a little into myself, I go quiet, and I get very tired, I also had neck tension but I didn’t put my finger on what it was. I should have. I dealt with it a few times within the long distance relationship I had. I don’t give a rats ass if someone thinks “oh, whatever, it’s long distance, she couldn’t have”. Unless you have been there don’t make assumptions. It is something I learnt to deal with, lack of physical touch made it almost unbearable but we found ways around it.

I have been a little down the past couple of days and I put it down to tiredness but it’s not. I am coming right now and it’s fine because I am aware of it. It’s been such a full on couple of weeks and I have really not had much downtime, one of my major faults, I never know when to just stop and take a break. Being a full time single parent takes it’s toll as well and trying to find that time for myself is something I always struggle with.

Anyways I am going off track a bit. There was a comment in one of the discussion threads on Fetlife about a sub not being able to put the brakes on and “a need” … immediately I saw “she’s in a sub frenzy state” … and she isn’t aware. That’s why it is so important to subbie’s to have a good network of friends they can talk to when they get to these points. It helps a hell of alot. And most importantly to be able to talk to people who have dealt with it personally and can see the signs. It keeps us safe and emotionally supported.

Below are a couple articles worth reading, and may be helpful to some…

Sub Frenzy

Sub Drop

How do you deal with it? Did you even realise you were dealing with it at the time?

Do dominants experience a form of Dom drop?

Updated… looky what vixen found Dom Drop

This is a pressie for the “fluffy family” that I stayed with in Auckland xx

Don’t steal it unless you are a fluffy

This heart isn’t quite right

It’s a bit battered & bruised

Mistrust rife, fear suffocating it

Scared to open it up again

Lest another crack appears

It can’t take much more

All it wants is to be cherished

Shown how to feel warmth again

Gently coaxed out from behind the shadows

The shadows that mute it’s very being

Some bits are a bit lumpy,

Some are scarred badly,

Some parts have been buried

Some hold memories dear

The crux pierced to the core

But most of all is the fear

Of forgetting how to love

The journey

Is how to find it again

The heart beats

Quietly

… the olympics are over