GIFT noun
1 : a notable capacity, talent, or endowment
2 : something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation
3 : the act, right, or power of giving
I like picking things apart. You quite often come across the phrase “the gift of submission”, a romanticised view in some sense of you … gifting the dominant your submission in whole.
Really … what is it?
In reality you are giving up power, you are giving in to your submission, giving in to yourself, your natural nature, so who’s really giving to who? Aren’t you really gifting yourself?
A dominant needs a space in which to nurture his desires, be they sadistic or sensual. By going into his space he is allowing himself to give that which he desires.
You are allowing yourself to be pliant, submissive, vunerable. It takes a great deal of strength to submit. A sub/slave is anything but weak.
Respect and trust must go two ways.
By allowing yourself to be vunerable you essentially find acceptance, for who you are, the dark desires, hidden thoughts, the dominant feeds your needs and desires as you do so his. It is intimate, it is passionate, it is primal. For both it is a need.
If it is indeed a gift “giving” submission then is it a tangible thing or something from the heart & mind ?
Should it be called a “gift” or should it be called a “dance” because one without the other, it is nothing.
Who give’s a rat’s butt what you call it really …
The whole point is to make your own path and do what works for you.
Your kink is yours and mine is mine …
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