Loads of women have used these little delicate balls, loads of women swear by them, some think they are just a myth they don’t work, I am one who hasn’t until recently decided to try them and I’m curious.

I bought myself a set of wee silver ben wa balls a couple weeks back and haven’t really made the time to use them until the other day… first experience was hmmm well this is quite strange but great. I’ll explain…

After I had my son I went through the usual things most mums experience. One of these…worrying about sneezing too hard in case you pee yourself…

The birth of my son was an extremely difficult one resulting in me just about losing him, he was in intensive care for three days after his birth, having been resuscitated at birth. Thankfully he is a healthy growing lad now with no side effects from the midwife’s incompetence. I was basically too small in the hips and pelvis to accomodate for an eight and a half pound baby. I’m not a big person… it went from a relaxed home birth situation to hospital and the threat of forceps. I had been telling my midwife for well over half an hour that something was wrong and we needed to go to the hospital. I went through the birth with no painkillers, two and a half hours of full on pushing to get him out, I ended up with about nine stiches down below. I found out afterwards I should have had a c-section according to my “head of the department in a big hospital” midwife aunt. She was furious. I was furious and damaged more than I should have been as well as my son.

All this time I have had to deal with changes and the shit my body went through with my son’s birth. It is a beautiful moment to hold a child in your arms that you have bought into the world, that first sight of your baby. Jesus that sounds clucky, don’t worry I ain’t clucky and no I don’t give a hoot about biological clocks and all the other things parents tell me about having more … no thanks one is enough for me.

Anyways back to the sneezing … it made my whole body change including my poor center, I of course a wee bit distressed at all the changes I was dealing with. I absolutely hate stress and drama. It’s unhealthy for me. Everytime I sneezed or coughed hard … uh oh … I peed myself, what the hell???? Highly not cool and me thinking oh god this has to change. M had me on a daily kegels exercise regime, if I didn’t do them I would be punished, I did them and they actually began to work, and as a great side effect I became a walking bundle of orgasmic bliss. I wanted to do them, lol sometimes I would do more than the quota so he would up it a little. It was fun and it was helping me deal with an issue at the same time. A little one but never the less significant.

I decided it was time to get myself a set of ben wa balls and keep having this wee journey, after all what’s a girl to do hehe. She has to amuse herself somehow. The first time I was quietly disappointed, I felt them but I had this stupid notion that I would be running around all day in orgasmic bliss … not so, as I now realise… I need a little patience and alot more practice and experiementing hehe. I am actually sat here, occassionally getting up and down to do things, sitting in different positions playing, lol. Why the hell not. The more I use them the more fun I get out of them and also benefits, it’s a win win situation. Lol probably one of the reasons I really don’t like the idea of chasity belts, I’d go mad lol. I think I will make myself use ze little balls of pleasure for a few hours each day hmmm that could be interesting.

The house is quiet, its the time I like to write and at the same time I am sat here … well enjoying myself. *grin* they are the original style, silver and slighty weighted which I can feel, is such a gorgeous feeling, and they are fun to play with, so discreet and easy to use hehe and noooo one knows *giggle* well except for you bloody lot that read this blog alot. The kegels I have done have paid off as these are quite small and not like the ones that have a string holding them together. You use your muscles to hold them in hehe. SO far they ain’t falling out so I am doing something right and by god they make me horny. Num num. Thank god for toys!

Ben Wa Balls only provide light stimulation. However, many people argue that we should be more in tune with our bodies, that we rely too heavily on high-powered stimulus for easy gratification. While some people don’t have much of a quibble with that line of thinking, many others–among them Tantra enthusiasts, Taoist sex practitioners, yoga and meditation advocates and other endorsers of spirituality, health and sensual living–feel that we would benefit from a return to enjoying life’s subtler pleasures. It’s rumored that the orgasms achieved from using Ben Wa Balls are worth the wait. But ultimately, Ben Wa Balls can provide one very good benefit: with proper use, they can help to tighten and strengthen your PC muscle, which not only gives you a more desirable grip during intercourse, but also helps to control your bladder and prevent incontinence as you age.