A submissive who has detached from their Dominant will slowly but surely go into a state of need. This is in my opinion a naturally occurring state by which the submissive projects their availability and desire for a new mate. I should also mention that the experiences within the relationship are in many ways addictive. The state of natural euphoria that a submissive may experience during a scene can set off a hunger to experience that again. This is identical to the introduction of any addictive drug chemistries into the body, the same symptomology in many ways.

Understanding the process I am going through has greatly helped and answered a few questions as to how I am feeling right now. It’s a feeling of sadness as well as feeling a little lost but it’s also understandable, the dynamic in a D/s relationship can go very deep on many levels. In my case it grounded me a hell of alot. It was part of my everyday, even though we had a long distance relationship we incorporated as much as we could and had constant contact via phone and net throughout each day everyday, until we could meet. It’s odd it has affected me being released more than I thought, and it’s been interesting as I joined collarme.com to be able to speak to others who are in the lifestyle. I have met some lovely people already, and as with all sites you get the weirdo’s, the wannabe Dom’s that assume they can begin to Dom in the first message… ermm sorry but you don’t OWN me … I don’t do shit for any man unless He hold’s the title of Master to me!

I am aware that I am in a state of sub frenzy and I am also aware of the things I could foolishly do right now so in saying that I keep it in check, I back off from those situations which I damn well know are not right, people who try and take advantage, but thankfully I am intelligent enough to see the difference in a real Dom and not these silly players that want free sex.

And the amount of married men on these sites that play about without their wives knowledge… excuse me but that is deceitful and how the hell can you be in a BDSM relationship when one of the foundries is TRUST????

le_sigh … where are all the genuine people out there and why do I get the fucktards grrr.